The mother and son in law relationship

Imagine coming from work and finding someone at your home, with no trace of your blood in their vein, you wish they could go but nothing of that nature happens

Imagine being forced to stay with that person no matter the hatred you have for each other.

Will it be easy to adjust………just like that without making a fuss out of it

Such is the mother in law to son in law relationship. It’s a relationship which is created ,molded and cultivated time after time because you have to be related whether you like it or not.

Which brings us to today’s discussion on some of the challenges and disappointments that married men meet when it comes to establishing and maintaining good relations with their mother in laws.

Listed below are some of the responses that I got from the people that I interviewed regarding to the subject above matte

Response from Emmanuel

My mother in law has never liked me ever since I married her daughter as soon as she finished her advanced level at Mpopoma high school. She is of the view that iam the one who is responsible for making her daughter come out with one point at A level which is not the case because by then we were just friends so how could I have made  her  to fail. She always tells my wife that iam a womanizer because I drink a lot of which that is not the case. No matter how I try to impress her through buying groceries for her house, it’s all fruitless.

Response from Wandile

My relationship with my mother in law was good, she was like a mother to me .It all ended when I slapped my wife after she called my mother a lose woman during an argument. Yes I was wrong to beat my wife and it is not justified but I don’t expect a good mother in law to take a stance when we have a slight misunderstanding with her daughter other than helping us to resolve our differences

Response from Tawanda Mareche

My relationship with my mother in law is not that sour though iam not happy with the way she pokes her nose in our marriage. Ever may time I suggest something to my wife; her mother is the one who has to give the final say. She has no right because iam not married to her.

Most of the men that I talked to showed high discontent with their mother in laws though some did not have tangible reasons for doing so. Maybe this is because of the nature of the relationship that a mother and a son in law have, which is rather artificial than biological. It is artificial in the sense that as a son in-law you are forced to call someone mother who is not related to you in any way. Is it because mother in-laws are always skeptical of their son in laws because of the high levels of divorce these days?

Should a man say I did marry you…….. Not your mother?

Let’s meet again next week