Dont suffer in silence as a man

I was  intrigued when i read an article regarding to why men are always beaten by their wives and i then decided to write some of the reasons so that men who are in the same predicament can know how to handle this challenge

"You just accept it"

I don’t remember the first time. It’s a little strange. It’s as if you lived in a place where it was very dangerous to walk in the streets and every day someone came and beat you up. But you survived and it became a part of your daily life. You go and buy vegetables at the store, but you don’t remember what vegetables you used to buy two years ago. It’s like that with violence too. You just accept it and hope that it passes.”

Men’s stories are reminiscent of what we read in the traditional literature on wife abuse. Men are also beaten, hit on the head with an ashtray or threatened with a knife by their partners. Most of them tell about episodes of psychological violence, such as a wife phoning constantly to check what her husband is doing.

Or the partner makes threats. She might threaten to file for divorce if her husband has contact with his family. Some women threaten to murder the children

suffering in silence

Men don't call it violence

Men who are beaten by their wives don't think that this is some kind of violence as they  are able to give concrete descriptions of violent situations, but they don’t call it violence. They often say that they could have thrown their partner to the ground; they just didn’t do it.

 Men believe they are the only ones

Most men who are beaten by their wives are afraid to report because they think that no one will believe their stories as they are the only ones

“Men contribute to keeping their stories secret by not talking about them. And the public system of services helps maintain this secrecy by not acknowledging that men can be victims of violence

 Source    Tove Ingebjørg Fjell ,professor at the Department of Archaeology, History, Cultural Studies and Religion at the University of Berge