Things will never be the same

I have a friend who lost his first wife due to an accident which happened on her way to Botswana and ever since his first wife died, my friend has never been jovial and happy

like he was when his first wife was alive.

These  had been married for nine years and had two daughters aged five and nine respectively who are now staying with their maternal grandmother since their father is has now married another woman.

This is something that I don’t understand and will never understand.

Why does a man have to sacrifice his children because of new love which has no guarantee of lasting for eternity?

From the people that I have lost in my life so far, I know that death of a loved family member is something which leaves deep wounds in someone’s heart .These wounds can last a life time especially if it was sudden death.

I remember when I lost my father; I grieved for four years and up to now there are still moments when I grieve whenever I think about his death.

If I can grieve that long for someone that I have never stayed with, I wonder how my friend feels whenever he thinks about his wife that he was staying with for nine good years.For more information regarding to   how it feels to lose a spouse    read more

A death video showing  how heartbreaking death can be

I know very well that one is beginning to wonder how death is related to my blog s but after finishing reading this blog, one would get to understand that death is one of the challenges that men meet in their marriage as it leaves a permanent trace in someone’s life.

Generally when one spouse dies, people normally tell the remaining spouse that it’s better because he/she was left with kids who would help the person to get over the death like what they were telling my friend.

The belief is that kids fill the void which could have been left by the departed one and make the remaining one not to feel more pain like it would have been the case if there were no kids.

How then does it feel when one gets married to someone who does not want anything to do with children from his husband’s late wife?

How would you feel if the little bundles of joy which were helping you to forget all the pain that you felt when your first wife died are told to go and stay with their maternal grandmother by someone that you would have married?

Do you just forget their mother’s death just like that?

I just don’t know what causes this.

Some women naturally feel threatened when they have to stay with their step children with the reason being that the step children’s mother will use the children as an excuse to get back to her ex husband.

This is reasonable as no one is happy or prepared to be threatened by her husband’s ex wife

If that is the case, how on earth could a dead person be a threat?

It is common knowledge that men love their children and it makes sense if they get angry whenever their children are sent to stay with someone else who knows nothing about them.

It’s a challenge that several men meet but we have never been considerate enough to reason with them when it comes to their children.

How they wish they were single!!!!!!