Men need their space

He needs his space to do his own things, to be away from her frequent complaints, away from the cries of children and away from work.

This means that he needs to hang out with his friends.

When he was single he used to enjoy life to the fullest.

He would go out and have braai with his friend every weekend and not even anyone would complain whenever he got back home.

Not even his parents!

He would attend all his friend’s birthday parties and organized some as well.

He was enjoying because he was a bachelor and he wished that the bachelorhood will never end…but all that ended on the last bachelor party that his friends had organized for him a day before he got married.

Little did he know that he would never be allowed to go out with his friends again let alone to attend their birthday parties because he had a wife who is more than a mother to him.

He can no longer have even a few bottles of beer with his friends because the wife says that’s a sign of immaturity and failing to take responsibility.

Believe me, iam not saying that married men should behave as if they are not married as this would lead to a lot of marital problems in the long run.

In as much as married men have to abandon their old traits and behavior and take responsibility for the family, they also deserve to enjoy their lives as well.

Getting married should not be like going to a prison to a man; it should be like moving to another phase of life as nature calls for it.

Getting married does not also mean that a man should abandon all his child hood friends who would not be married yet and look for new ones as it is common knowledge that friendship is not just a one night thing but is rather complicated as friendship is not applied for but is rather earned through trust.

Yes, he has to leave some of these friends if they fail to respect and acknowledge the fact that he is now married at the same time keeping close all those friends who give him good advice.

The funny thing about us as women is that we want to ensure that we keep our old friends and all of them yet we don’t want our husbands to keep their friends.

Is it because we know that our friends are responsible for all the bad things that we do or is it a matter of just don’t liking your husband’s friends.

If men are not allowed to continue hanging out with their old friends ,we should stop hanging out with our old friends as well.

Why should men suffer out of boredom and wait for any slightest mistake that the wife makes as a way of ending the marriage so that they can go back and enjoy the old days that they used to have with their friends.

They need space and time to be relieved of the family burden and their wives complaints through hanging out with their friends as marriage is not a jail where it is only the prison officer decides what the prisoner has to do .

Marriage is for two people and these two people have to enjoy the marriage in the same way. This means that if as a woman you want space to hang out with your friends,you need to give him that space to hang out with his friends as well

Men should be allowed and not condemned whenever they hang out with their friends